RE: (TFT) Leaving List

["Christopher Brandon" <brandon@pokemon-seattle.com>]

Hello-

As a new poster I was quite off put by the first reaction to my thoughts
on the game system.  Clearly my heretical thoughts offended Mr. Jackson
or at least the manner in which I stated them apparently did.  For that
I did apologize.  I did not appreciate the antagonistic and rude manner
in which he voiced his discontent, but clearly the manner in which I
made my post offended him.  As a result of his less than polite
disagreement I had decided to simply stay quiet.

Then other responses turned up.  I think the vast majority of folks read
it for what I meant it to be: an inquiry into an alternate way of
creating adventures that mirrored similar video games-and whether or not
that idea is interesting to current TFT'ers on the list.  The vast
majority took time to discuss it, think about it, and share there own
insights, disagreements, and comments in a friendly and thoughtful
manner.

To my way of reading it Mr. Jackson has a tendency to take offense at
thoughts counter to his own and then in a very aggressive and
disparaging way respond. I do take offense to many of his statements,
but rather than respond in kind, I just let it go.  It does not serve me
or, the community to respond in kind to many statements that I
personally read as rude or unkind.

I made the mistake of deciding to let Mr. Jackson bully me off the
boards.  I see there are others who now may be thinking the same thing.
I would ask those thinking of this to please stay on as I did. 

The majority of folks I have encountered on the board are thoughtful,
innovative, and passionate about this game.  Should one fellow be given
the power to drive us off?  I think not.  Removing someone I think is
the easy way out.  

Mr. Jackson probably has some really interesting and great things to
say, unfortunately the language he chooses to use is very unpleasant and
his message is lost to me because of it. I quit reading his posts
altogether for now and my problem was solved. If there is a someone (me
for instance) whose posts or language you dislike, then just ignore the
post.  You do not have to read everything, and you should not let one
negative wipe out a lot of positive enjoyment you get from sharing
thoughts and innovations on these lists. Don't punish yourself for
someone else's bad behavior.


Cheers!
Chris

-----Original Message-----
From: tft-admin@brainiac.com [mailto:tft-admin@brainiac.com] On Behalf
Of Joe Hartley
Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2008 5:32 AM
To: tft@zappa.brainiac.com
Subject: Re: (TFT) Leaving List

On Mon, 28 Apr 2008 21:39:53 -0400
"Jonathan & Laura" wrote:
> If there is
> going to be no moderation of uncivil behavior/personal attacks, I'm
going to
> sign-off also.  

"Wizard Master" wrote:
> Just thought the moderator of this list should know the reason for my 
> depature.

Those of you who have been on this list a long time will know that my
approach to moderating is... laid-back.  My theory is that groups tend
to
be self-moderating, and when someone is acting like a tool, an apology
tends to come out soon or the tool leaves in a huff when people call him
on it.  (I'd say him or her, but oddly, there are no women to my
knowledge
on this list.)

I have not read all the emails that have come through the list lately,
as
I'm moving a server room to two different locations and relocating an
office
of about 50 people in the middle of all this, and I'd seen a couple of
poorly-written words, and offense taken where there was possibly none 
intended.  I have not seen it become uglier, so I must have missed
something.

I will write to people off list as necessary, but a few notes to all
list members:  Be civil, and remember that things written sarcastically,
cynically or tongue-in-cheek can often be taken the wrong way.

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